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How to life coach without saying a word is possible but unlikely. Have you ever gotten that look from your significant other, and knew exactly what it meant? It is partially because 95% of communication is non-verbal in nature. But it is very likely that you know the person you received the look from on a very deep level.
How to Life Coach Without Saying a Word
Most experts agree that 70-95% of communication is non-verbal. So then why would you need to talk while life coaching? The primary reason to speak as a life coach is to ask questions. People are often able to answer the questions they have. A great life coach says very little, conveys a lot and asks questions when needed to facilitate the forward progress of the client.
Not Talking as a Tactic to Keep the Client Talking
To life coach without saying a word requires the use of tactics. Have you ever noticed how much anxiety is generated when there is silence during a conversation? This can be used to keep the client talking. Most people are very uncomfortable with silence, so by not talking and giving a look of anticipation, clients will often fill the silent void by talking. The only catch is you must find peace in the still moments and not start talking before your clients do.
Also, read this Article on Empowerment Coaching
People are Social in Nature
There is something comforting about having others around or with us. The closer the relationship the more comfort is created by the nearness. I find that when I am working on a tough project, I enjoy having my wife around, she does not necessarily need to help me, or even talk, just her presence is enough to make what I am doing easier.
This explains why athletes often perform better with loved ones in the stands cheering them on. When we have someone in our corner, someone we believe is supporting us, even without saying anything we feel empowered and perform better.
It is the Thought That Counts
When a life coach is with his or her client, it is as equally important what they are not saying as what they are saying. What a coach is thinking while their client is painted all over their face. Facial expressions convey so much information, coaches need to be extra careful not to bring their own issues, fears, anxieties, worries, or biases into the coaching session.
This becomes obvious when there is incongruence between the words being spoken and the message being presented by non-verbal expressions. Have you ever been asked what is going on when you think you are acting normal but have something on your mind? Maybe you have a frown, you are wringing your hands, or are not able to sit or standstill. Your body often gives away your hidden intentions.
Most experienced coaches know this and can surmise much about their clients even without them ever talking. But it is important to have clients express their thoughts in words to give them a form, in this way they can decide to set them down and leave them or keep hold of them.
Life Coach Without Talking
Believe it or not, if you are a friend, parent, sibling, or coworker you already speak volumes to those who know you without ever talking. Take the extra moment to take note of what others might “read” when they are near you. That way you can decide the message you convey even before you speak.
You know what confidence looks like. You have seen a very confident person walk into a room, they are very recognizable. There is no doubt that they hold themselves in high regard. They almost command respect before they even speak. Plus, when the special few who have mastered that while maintaining a non-arrogant view of themselves, they become infectious.
They attract others to them, and they appear to be natural-born leaders, but this in truth this quality is not born but taught. So practice being aware of what you are saying with speaking, it will change the number of words you have to use to get your ideas and thoughts across.